Repeating Patterns

& Why You Keep Making Them

Your Past Isn’t Over. It’s Holding You Back.

Ever notice how life sometimes feels like a broken record? Same arguments. Same regrets. Same frustrations. You tell yourself, “I won’t do this again,” yet somehow… you do.

Here’s the truth: your past isn’t just behind you. It’s actively shaping your present. Think of it like being held captive by something invisible - held back by your own mind, with no obvious way out. The habits, emotional triggers, and unconscious patterns you carry may feel automatic - but they’re rooted in old experiences, often from childhood or past relationships. Recognising them is the first step to breaking free.

The Hidden Emotions Keeping You Stuck

Most of us try to avoid difficult feelings. Anger, sadness, shame, fear. But emotions aren’t the enemy. They’re the key to transformation.

Here’s how to work with your feelings instead of against them:

1. Name the Feeling
   Label it. Language gives clarity. If you can identify it, you can manage it.

2. Own the Feeling
   Accept that this feeling is yours. No one can “make” you feel something - you choose how to respond. Ownership is the first step to empowerment.

3. Feel the Feeling
   Sit with it fully, without guilt or shame. Past conditioning may have taught you to hide your emotions, but now you’re neurologically capable of experiencing them and staying whole.

4. Let It Be and Let It Go
   Emotions are fleeting. Accept them, and then release them. Imagine comforting a child - you’re doing the same for yourself.

By embracing your feelings, you reclaim energy and stop letting them run your life behind the scenes.

Are You Revolving or Evolving?

People fall into two categories:

• Revolving: repeating old patterns, living life on autopilot.

• Evolving: learning from experiences, growing into a fuller version of themselves.

Ask yourself these questions when you feel triggered:

1. Who does this person remind me of?

2. Where have I felt like this before?

3. Why does this dynamic feel familiar?

Often, your reactions trace back to old relationships or family dynamics. Awareness is not blame - it’s power. Once you see it, you can respond differently.

Start Living Your Own Truth

Breaking patterns starts with awareness, but it doesn’t end there. You must take action:

• Connect mind, body, and spirit.

• Accept every mood and feeling.

• Notice your growth in real-time (how you respond, what you feel, what you learn).

As a coach, I guide people through mind-body techniques to reconnect with their True Self. I help clients break habits, reclaim energy, and take bold steps toward the life they truly want.

Remember: your patterns don’t define you - your choices do.

A Final Thought

Repetition isn’t punishment, it’s education. Every trigger, every frustration, every “why am I doing this again?” moment is a lesson.

If you notice, reflect and adjust, you’re not revolving. You’re evolving.

Ask yourself today:

“If I sought help to understand and manage my mind, how different could my life and relationships be a year from now?”

Awareness is the first step. Action is the next. And transformation? That’s entirely up to you.